women against there guys racing

[962porsche]

this is some thing i will never get !
not long ago i was talking to a friend and he was telling me his wife may not let him go to the glen for a event he wants to do . it's not like they have no money and there is nothing they have planed for that time . she just does not want him to go .
i ran into this with a girl i date for a short time ( a very short time ) .
this person has kids but they are off at school now so there is no reason there .
they have the money for him to go racing .
they have no plans that week end .
there is just no reason why he can't go ! but she does not want him to go .
the two races he did do this year his wife would call him every hour on the hour and bitch at him about one thing or another the hole time he was away .
i just don't under stand women like this .

[Mark Swinehart]

Some people are never happy and complain about everything.

[962porsche]

not bitching i think it's funny as hell !
but there is a dam good reason why i'm single and will never married again !

[cfossum]

My ex-wife forbid me from racing when I first became interested. That is one-half the reason why she is my ex. The other half reason is more complicated....

[962porsche]

i have been at LRP the last 2 days friday night there were 10 of us or so hanging out and we got talking about this . some one brought up a good point that men have hobbys some times many of them were most women don't .
that when it came to me he was right ! if you go into any book store and look at the magazine rack you will see mag's on car , boats , motorcycles and so on then look at what they have for women . they are wedding , cosmo ,
and what is in the cosmo mag how to get a man how to keep a man how to get your man to marry you .
so i really got me thinking i broke up with my GF 4 times because she would keep wanting to marry me and she knows dam well i don't ever want to do that again .
when i was on match years ago there was a part of it about hobbies the women would tend to never fill that part out or they would say they like going to the beach so what do women do it the beach they lay out in the sun to get a tan to look good to get a man .
if you are with a girl that lets you go racing when ever you want thank her ! i'm taking my GF out to dinner to do just that !
my friend on the other hand is taking his wife out because she told him he's taking her out .
it's every sad !

[iamrazor]

Because W.A.P.C.E

Women
Are
Pure
Concentrated
Evil

[StephanAlfa]

Dave, I agree with you on the hobby thing. I think this makes a huge difference.
But under all this is something in a relationship called reasoning.
Take my wife for example. She happened to witness a serious crash while I was kart racing (WKA) when we were dating. That's why I have one arm slightly bent out of shape. She knew she could not shake the racing out of me (I had this "disease" way before I met her .. ) so we made a deal that I would not race wheel-to-wheel again. So one needs to be thankful as one door closes another one opens!
I then tried to get her involved and gave her a gift certificate for one student day at COM (using my ALFA! :shock ) but after the day was over she confirmed this is not her thing. I respect that.
Then she totally understands that this is my hobby and best of all there is a reward from all this: you build friends, you stay out of trouble, you are focused on what you do best and you are happy. A happy family will will last forever.
I do not have other "vices" like boys night out, poker night, bar hopping, etc.. I don't do this. My only personal thing that I do away from wife and family is racing. Then, to combine doing instruction and classroom at COM and chatting with friends from this great club, it's an additional blessing. Now, to see couples sharing this same passion (Jeff and Liz, Jeff & Julie, Craig & Dianne, Scott and Coleen, Carl and Wendy), this is icing on the cake.

[962porsche]

i could see in a case like your were you got injured . and yes we all know how fast and what can happen to us every time we get into a car and go out on the track .

when i was racing off road motorcycles i got injured many times untill i broke my leg so bad i can't even ride any more . i even cut a cast off and taped my arm up to go racing .

that is far from his case and though i laugh about it it kind of gets under my skin because she does not like me only because i'm one of his racing friends . but for all it matters she does not like any of his friends that race or has any thing to do with cars .

over the years i have known many people that have stopped racing because the so called better half did not want them to race or do track days .

[962porsche]

if you would like to know how rampant this problem is .
i have two friends pissed off at me for posting this and it's not even about them !
then another friend ( baller ) was asking me if it was about a hole other person !
this just keeps getting sadder ! when people your not even talking about thinks it's them you know some thing is totally wrong .

[TroyV]

Every year since about 1999, I have done an average of 15 autocross events and between 5 and 8 track events a season. On a heavy year that equates to being out just about every weekend from April to September. When your wife isn't into the activity at all, and you are gone every weekend when the weather is nice, it definitely becomes an issue regardless of if it is your only vice or not.

Granted, being out at least one day for 23 weekends is a little extreme, but you get my meaning. It is more than a hobby to a lot of us. For many years.....for me....It trumped every vacation, every family outing, every graduation and every other lame thing folks do on weekend days.

That my wife hasn't booted my ass out of the house by now is a miracle.

[joncowen]

I think i'm lucky like Troy. I also do lots of autocross on top of the track and Lemons racing. When i'm not gone, i'm in the garage working on my car, or in NH working on the Lemons car. My wife supports what i do, and doesn't complain about it. She even helps me pay for it sometimes. She doesn't have interest in driving on track, and once in a while will come and autocross. She does enjoy coming to the lemons races to support our team.
She uses the time i'm gone to visit her family and more distant friends, which also means i don't have to. I trained her well.

[TroyV]

That, sir....is what we call a "keeper".

Well done.

[962porsche]

what made me start thing about this is a good friend of mine Fred N.
in 2010 he bought a 09 M3 paid cash for the car and did not tell his wife he bought the car and she also did not know he bought the car . now when you can go buy a car like that and you have the money were your other half doesn't even know you bought it then that tells me you have more then enough money .
then from time to time over the rest of the 2009 /2010 winter i would go over to his house and we installed all new safety gear in the car . again he paid top dollar for the best things for the car and his wife had no idea that he did .
when she saw the car in his garage he told he is was a friends car that he was just putting in there garage because the owner had no were to put it .
so i the summer of 2010 fred took the car to the track twice (by the way he also bought a new inclosed trailer to haul the car ) and had a great time the same in 2011 . and all tghis time putting more time and money into the car still telling his wife the car belonged to some one else . were finely he told his wife in 2012 he was going to buy the car from his friend . she hit the roof when he told her he was buying the car ! she hated me from the start because fred and i used to race NETRA motorcycle event's together before they even met .
so in 2013 he did one event down at NJMP and wanted to do another at the glen this time with COMSCC . she said no way i don't want you racing so he never did do the event or any others this year .
then because she hates me so much and even to the point now of being a total ass to me even when i would stop over . the date i did this post i found out i was the guy that owned the car and sold it to him and got him into racing cars . and that brings me right back to the why the hell is she and some many other women so against us racing ?

[Mark Swinehart]

Maybe she doesn't appreciate being lied to?

[962porsche]

to this day she still has no idea he bought the car new and put all the money into it .
she just thinks he only bought the car and trailer from me last year .
it wrong to BS her but it's even more wrong wanting to stop the so called person you love from doing things they love to do .
she got him to stop riding off road bikes then he got a real nice boat well she put a end to that because she did not like the water so then for years he did not do any thing at all but cut the grass on weekends . so one day years ago i let him borrow my 944 then he a i went to LRP and did a SCDA event he had a total blast . so then another year goes by and that was all he could talk about was doing another track day but he couldn't his wife would kill him if he did .
there is so much more to life than cutting your grass on the weekends !